I came across this quote on Instagram. Loved it, so here I am posting it.
Why online dating you ask?I thought with time things would get easier, every night I would go to bed praying that my mother would adapt to the culture here. Back in Somalia, people dated within their race and religion. “Dating outside your religion is a sin Sofia, it will bring a lot of shame to our family” my mother would say every time I mentioned anything about dating. I grew up obeying the same rules; I always thought that the only reason my mother acted this way was because of where we were living, moving to Canada to me sounded like a good way to start over. Her rules never did change and the double standards got worse. Us girls always received a hard time any time we wanted to leave the house however, my brothers were allowed to come and go as they pleased. I didn’t have a curfew because she expected us to be at home at all times. Things didn’t lighten up when I entered high school; I still had the same curfew and was not allowed to attend games or dances that were hosted by our high school. To be honest high school was a blur. I had a best friend name Brooke Scott who I met in grade 10 and till this day we are still best friends. However, she never really understood why my mother was so strict; explaining it to her or anyone else was not fun so I started to lie in order to get out of going to places ( movie theaters, mall, school dances)
My senior year of high school was when I decided that I was ready to date. I had a whole speech prepared on how my mother is strict which made meeting her was out of the question. Now that I think about it, the lying was terrible. Every time I went out I had to make up some sort of excuse. Luckily for me, the boy I was dating also worked with me making seeing each other much easier. We dated on and off for one year, I had been warned that he was not a good guy, but because he said really sweet things to me and was my first boyfriend, I decided to over look his flaws. The last straw was when he cheated on me. We had a really bad break up; there was a lot of yelling and saying things that we both would regret. If dating was going to be this difficult, I decided that I would stay single for a while; which I did until I entered college.
Unlike high school, college was more memorable; I met great friends who helped me step out of my little bubble. Rachel, Ciara and Ivy soon became close friends of mine; I was able to share everything with them and in return they gave me great advice. Monday morning we were all sitting and having lunch, I decided to bring up online dating to get a idea of what they thought of it. “So guys, I have a random question, what are your thoughts on online dating?” Everyone stared at me before saying anything “I think its a way for creepy men to get laid, I have a friend who has an account JUST to sleep with women” Ciara blurted out. “I think it’s a good way to meet people. I met my first boyfriend online and we dated for 8 years.” Rachel added. I was shocked by her answer because in the past I’ve only heard negative things about it. I knew that this would be a good way for me to communicate with people without my mother finding out. With that in mind I decided to change the subject.
People who don’t know me would say that I am very shy and quiet. People who know me would say the exact same thing. I don’t like to be the center of attention, matter of fact I don’t like any attention. I am 5’4 and 145 pounds with brown eyes and black hair. I like keeping to myself; I have a really hard time meeting new people because half the time I don’t say a word. I am the awkward girl who stands in a group full of people and says nothing, making things more awkward for everyone else. A combination of having a strict mother, being really shy and advice from friends is the reason why I decided to try out online dating.
As promised here is chapter one of the short story that I am currently working on. This story is not complete yet so I will post whenever I finish the next chapter. Since I am not a professional writer, any feedback is welcome. If any of you enjoy editing and want to join me on this journey, e-mail me and we will work something out. With out further a do, here is chapter one. Thanks for stopping by!
Chapter One ” There’s a first time for everything”
Another night spent at home alone doing absolutely nothing. I can hear my mom downstairs calling my name, which can only mean one thing. I am in trouble. The best thing to do when my mother gets into one of her moods is to ignore her and hope that she will forget whatever she’s ranting on about. “ Sofia I know you can hear me, come down right now” Instead of listening to her I decided to browse the internet to pass the time. I ended up on a social networking website called connectU. ConnectU in a online dating website that my friend Ivy had told me about. Sitting in my room alone, I decided to check out the website and see what kind of people were on it. ” There’s a first time for everything” I thought to myself. I knew this was something that I have been wanting to try for a while but at the same time I was ashamed of it. Growing up as a Muslim woman, we never spoke about dating let alone online dating. If I wanted to try this, I would have to keep it to myself. I looked at my watch and noticed that it was already 7:00 pm. I really need to start my math homework. As much as I hate school, summer class allowed me to get out of the house more often. This way I was still able to see my friends and socialize. I spent the next few hours working on my homework but when 11:00 pm rolled around, I decided to browse the profiles listed on ConnectU. Some of these people were really creepy and others seemed really intriguing. After one hour of searching I decided to sign up. I filled out all the required fields and included a short bio. I even went as far as adding a picture hoping that no one I knew would be on this website. Right away I received a couple of e-mails that made me really uncomfortable. Two of them consisted of guys asking me for nude photos. Maybe this is not for me? An hour and a half later I received an email that caught my attention. The first thing I did was skim through his profile, it looked promising, I then proceeded to look through his pictures to confirm that he wasn’t fake. Right when I noticed his ethnicity, I knew this was going to be a problem.
E-mail from Carson Thompson
“ Hi, my name is Carson, I know you must receive a lot of messages on this website so I will keep this short. I would like to start off by saying that I am very intrigued by your profile, from reading what you wrote I feel like we have a lot in common. If you have the time, I would like to chat and get to know you better. Thanks, Carson.
That is the first e-mail that I have read from this dating website that did not make me cringe. At this point I got curious and decided to completely read his profile. “Single, college student, personal trainer.. not bad” I thought to myself, maybe this guy isn’t such a creep after all. I spent the next ten minutes crafting the perfect message and all I could come up with was “Thanks for the message, I read your profile and I also wouldn’t mind chatting. By the way, my name is Sofia”
That’s all I could think of, mind you its 1:30 am and I’m supposed to be working on my math homework instead of surfing the net.
Five minutes later Carson responded with a small bio of himself which included where he attends school, what kind of music and food he enjoys, his goals and ambitions. Everything he said was what I was looking for in a partner. So far, he is selling himself really well. We ended up messaging each other back and forth throughout the night. Around 5:20 am we decided to call it a night and promised that we would resume our conversation later that day. The last thing he said to me was
“ I hope this is not to forward but can I have your phone number?” I gave him my phone number and two minutes later received a text message saying “ It was nice to meet you Sofia, sweet dreams” At first I was worried about the fact that I just gave a stranger my phone number but for some reason, I felt like I could trust him.
Text message from Carson
I could barely sleep all morning, all I kept on thinking about was him. Would he text me? “Good morning Sofia, how did you sleep?” I have been waiting for this text all morning “well “ I replied “ How about you?” To tell you the truth I did not sleep one blink last night, all I kept on thinking about was how this boy could make me feel this way when we have only been speaking for a few hours. There was something about the way he wrote that made me feel like he cared about me already. He never used slang or improper grammar and at the end of every sentence he would include my name. We continued talking throughout the morning until I had to attend my summer class.
When I got home that day, my mother was cooking supper for me and my sister. I walked in said my hellos and headed straight to my bedroom. Let me tell you a little bit about me and my family. My name is Sofia, I am 24 years old and I am part of a very strict Islamic family that consists of my mother, two brothers and three sisters. Growing up we had it all, my dad was a wealthy man and treated my mother like a queen. When I was 5 years old, a war broke out in my home country Somalia. Before I knew it my mother packed our things and we were on a flight to Canada. Things did not go according to plan and instead we ended up in Spain where I lived for four years before moving to Canada. Once we moved here I quickly realized that my life was never going to be the same again and boy was I right.
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I have some exciting news to share with you guys. I am not sure if I have mentioned it before, but from time to time I like to write when I am feeling a certain way. Whether it be a poem or a short story, I like to express myself through writing. I have always claimed that I am not the best writer, I do this to help improve my writing. I do not consider myself a professional by any means. I just enjoy writing. Now on to the good news. A couple of years ago I decided to write a short story based loosely on my life. I use the term “loosely” because not all the events written in my short story are true. Even though I started this short story a couple of weeks a go, it is still not finished. After writing two chapters I decided to put it on hold. Things like college and work got in the way leaving me with no time to actually sit down and write. A couple of weeks ago I decided to continue with my short story, I had to find my old notes and get the hang of things while figuring out what direction I wanted to take this story. I have written one paragraph since then and now I kind of what to share it with you guys. I know I will receive a lot of negative feedback but hopefully some of it will be good. I am all for constructive criticism. As I mentioned before, I am not a professional writer, this to me is simply a hobby. It is a way for me to share some of my experiences. Most of what I talk about happened almost three years a go so at this point I am filling in the gaps by adding what I think happened, it may not be exactly how it happened, but it is close enough.
I want to publish my first chapter in my next post ( I need to edit it before I do so) but in the meantime, here is the synopsis:
Sofia is a 24 year old sheltered Islamic woman who is finally ready to step out of her shell to find love. Will outside influences from her strict Muslim mother destroy her chances of finding a relationship? Join Sofia on her unconventional journey to find happiness and most of all love. Ups and downs, Sofia is now realizing it might not be as easy as she thought, right when she was about to give up, he came along. Carson, 21, handsome, white and definitely not Muslim. What will she do?
This is not the official synopsis, I wrote a short one to give you guys a idea of what this short story is about. Let me know what your thoughts are so far. Thanks for stopping by!
Author: Marc Kuhn
Published: October 9, 2012
Paperback: 242 pages
Kindle Edition: 229 pages
THE POPE’S STONE is a fascinating historical novel that follows the lives of Nathaniel and Nicholas, descendants of the Barrington family of Virginia. Each young man keeps life-long journals which eventually reveal their parallel lives; lives that are mirrored by similar events and experiences, similar relationships and consequences. The two, however, lived a century apart. The only connections between them are their family heritage, their journals…and the Pope’s Stone.
The Pope’s Stone was a slab of engraved marble given to America in 1854 by Pope Pius IX. It was to be embedded within the walls of the Washington Monument, then under construction in the nation’s capital. John Henry Barrington, a stonemason working at the Monument site, was persuaded to assist a small party of anti-Catholic activists in stealing the Pope’s Stone, smashing it to pieces and tossing them into the Potomac River. The Pope’s Stone was never to be seen again, except for a fragment that John Henry secretly kept for himself. This small piece of the stone passes down through generations of Barringtons, leaving a path of hardship and unexpected tragedy for those who possess it. Coincidence? Bad karma, as Cousin Sarah calls it? Or is it more than that? And, what role does the stone play in the lives of Nathaniel and Nicholas? These are some of the questions you’ll be asking…discover the answers in THE POPE’S STONE.
I was excited to be part of this blog tour right from the beginning. A friend of mine, Monica e-mailed me to see if I would be interested in joining the blog tour for this book, without hesitation I agreed. This is my first blog tour and this book, even though it’s not in the genre that I typically read,it was still interesting enough to keep me flipping the pages. I have to start of by saying that I really enjoyed how the author described the characters, the way it was written made it really easy to follow and understand what they were going through during that time period. I really felt deeply for each of the characters and the issues they faced, it was definitely a emotional read. Even though they lived a century apart it was really interesting to read how similar their experiences were and how they correlated. I also really liked how each character wrote their own journal, it was a great way to truly see how they each felt about their journey.
This book took me on a emotional ride, what each of the character went through was truly heartbreaking. I found myself holding back my emotions and reminding myself that this was just a book. I felt really bad for them and couldn’t possibly imagine the grief they endured.
Even though I don’t read books about history, I found those aspects of the book to be quite interesting. The stories that were tied in with the war were really sad to read; I liked how it answered some of the questions that I had about Nathaniel and Nicholas’ family. It’s tragic but uplifting at the same time. It truly makes you appreciate life and how short it can be. I enjoyed reading how everyone suffered from Henry’s mistake, I found it to be realistic; I’m sure many of you can relate to that, experiencing something similar myself , I know I can. It’s crazy how one persons greed can affect so many people.
The ending for me tied everything together. I wasn’t too happy while I was reading it, but when I look back now it all makes sense. It all came full circle. I really liked the whole concept of this book and how everything tied together. The author does a great job transitioning from chapter to chapter without confusing the reader. All the chapters had something in common and that is really apparent from the beginning.
Last thoughts- My rating: 4/5
I don’t like to give away a lot when I review books, that’s one of the things my readers appreciate the most. When writing this review, there were a lot of things I wanted to mention but didn’t because it wouldn’t be fair to you guys. I can’t describe how much I enjoyed this book. I found it a little bit slow in the first chapter but after that it really picks up. As you are reading you start noticing the direction this books is going in and you start understanding the plot. Even if you don’t read books in this genre, I highly recommend you read this one. I was hooked right from the beginning, some parts made me want to cry and some parts really frustrated because like all things, life is not fair, its up to you how you deal with what life throws at you. There was a great message behind this book, and I know it will stick with me for a very long time.
I received a copy of this book for an honest review. A a big thank you to Monica!!
A big thank you to Marc Kuhn for writing this book, you did a great job and I truly enjoyed it. To read more about this author please read his bio below. Thanks everyone for stopping by and make sure to check out the giveaway hosted by Monica at the end of this post!
About the Author
Author Marc Kuhn has worked in radio broadcasting most of his life as a journalist, a program director and a marketing executive. He has held positions at major radio stations in Philadelphia, Washington, D.C. and Miami.
Now retired, he has turned his attention to writing. His first book, NEVER GOOSE A MOOSE! is a collection of whimsical verse for young children.
ABOUT A FARM is his second children’s book. It features lessons in life beyond the barnyard.
A third book, THE POPE’S STONE, is Kuhn’s first adult novel. It is a fascinating historical novel about two descendants of the same family who live parallel lives, but a century apart!
Kuhn lives in South Florida with his wife, Rosemarie, and seven grandchildren.
Contact the Author
The Pope’s Stone Tour Schedule (March 8-19)
Make sure to check out all the tour dates below. Let’s show some support!
March 8 – Impressions of a Princess
March 10 – YA Big BOOKworm
March 11- Book Adoration
March 12 – For the Love of Books
March 13 – Nazninazeez
March 14 – Amidst Books
March 15 – Lollipops and Rainbows
March 16 – Emma Snow
March 17 – Prisailurophile Blog
March 18 – Pretty Little Dreamer
March 19 – Edge of Jade
Marc Kuhn, the author of the historical novel The Pope’s Stone, is very generous to offer a combo prize package of a signed paperback of his book plus a simple black journal. To sweeten the deal, four winners can totally get this awesome gift. Awesome? Two US residents and two international participants will be chosen by an electronic raffle after the giveaway ends. So what are you guys waiting for? Kindly check the rafflecopter links below. The first one is for International giveaway and the next is for US only.
International Giveaway – link
US Giveaway – link
Note: Both giveaways are open until Friday, March 22. All entries will be checked for validity. On or before March 25, two international and two US residents will be randomly chosen by Rafflecopter. These four winners will be announced in this blog and they will have 48 hours to respond/comment on the announcement post.
Safe Haven is an affirming and suspenseful story about a young woman’s struggle to love again. The movie is based on the novel from Nicholas Sparks, the best-selling author behind the hit films The Notebook and Dear John. When a mysterious young woman arrives in a small North Carolina town, her reluctance to join the tight knit community raises questions about her past. Slowly, she begins putting down roots, and gains the courage to start a relationship with Alex, a widowed store owner with two young children. But dark secrets intrude on her new life with such terror that she is forced to rediscover the meaning of sacrifice and rely on the power of love in this deeply moving romantic thriller.
Right off the bat I was skeptical about this movie, I think it’s because I expect all movies based on Nicholas Spark books to be the same. They are usually really lovey dovey and are meant to make you cry. When I first saw this trailer I was hoping it would be different than all the other movies before it. The trailer I watched was short and did not give much away and I did not read any reviews or the synopsis of the book. I basically went in knowing nothing about the book/movie. Before the movie started I already felt bad for dragging my boyfriend a long; the entire time the trailers were on, I was hoping this movie wouldn’t be a complete bust because I knew my boyfriend would tease me about it. All that said, I was pleasantly surprised.
Starting off with the casting choices, Julianne Hough and Josh Duhamel really sold me the movie. They aren’t my favorite actors but they played their respective roles well. I felt their chemistry from the moment they meet in the movie. What surprised me the most was the plot. There was a real message behind it, it wasn’t just about two random strangers meeting in a random city, there was an actual reason for her moving there. Most of the time I find the dialogue in romantic movies cheesy but in this movie, they stayed away from the cheesy lines and really focused on the characters and their interactions. I do have to admit that I found some parts of the movie boring. Some scenes were really random and to me felt like fillers. I haven’t read the book so I don’t really have anything to compare it to but I felt like some of the scenes were not necessary. For those of you who have read this book you already know the different events that happen in this movie, since I never read the book, I was surprised and awed at some of the twists in the movie. I liked the element of surprise because I did not expect what did happen to happen and that is the main reason I liked this movie. It was not predictable and that is really hard to say for a romantic movie.
If you are browsing for movies to watch and you are a hopeless romantic like me, I recommend this movie for you. Actually I suggest you take your significant other or male friends because my boyfriend also liked it more than he thought he would. He enjoyed the story and all the struggles the main characters were facing. It wasn’t all about the “romance” between them, it was also about how each of us make mistakes and how life is about second chances. I honestly enjoyed this movie more than I thought I would. It wasn’t a tear dropper but there were moments where I felt deeply for the characters. I loved how the author gave the characters real issues that people can relate too. That concludes my review, if you have any thoughts on this movie, feel free to leave them in the comment section below. Thanks for stopping by!
Thank you to Danielle for nominating me for the Liebster award, I’m truly honored! When a blogger is nominated for this award, they need to do the following:
- Thank the person who nominated them
- Answer the 11 questions provided
- Write 11 questions for the people you will be nominating
- Nominate 11 other bloggers
What is the Leibstar award?
This award is given to upcoming new bloggers who have less than 200 followers. It’s a great way to promote new blogs and help spread the word. I love reading other peoples blogs, it’s the perfect way to come across new books and authors and meet new bloggers.
Danielle created questions for the nominees to answer. Below are my answers
- If you had to live anywhere in the world and never leave where would it be?
Paris! It inspires me everyday.
- Three things you can’t live without?
my books, my camera and my laptop
- Favorite Book Hero/Heroine?
I don’t really have a favorite book but right now I read way to many books making it really hard for me to pick one. Right now,I am loving Sylvia days crossfire novels
- What did you want to be when you grew up at age five?
I wanted to own my own hotels. Now I’m not too sure.
- What music do you like?
All types of music. It all depends on my mood that day.
- What would be written on your tombstone?
live long and prosper
- What’s the first thing you do in the morning?
Wash my face! And check my emails
- What’s your favorite part about blogging?
interacting with other bloggers. We need our own convention!
- Are you a PC or a Mac
I used to own a PC for five years, when my computer died, I decided to invest on a Mac.
- If your BFF was down in the dumps, what would you do to cheer him/her up?
since I’m usually a terrible singer, I sing and dance for her. It usually puts a smile on her face ( even though I look redicioulus)
- Do you believe we’re alone in the universe
for a second. Dun Dun Dun
- Who are your top 3 favorite authors?
- Favorite book that was adapted into a movie and did you like the movie version?
- What is your favorite hot beverage?
- Favorite genre to read?
- What is your favorite season of the year?
- Favorite romantic movie?
- Favorite TV show?
- What is your guilty pleasure?
- Tea or coffee? What do you prefer?
- What is your favorite quote?
- Twilight or Warm Bodies?
My nominations: Make sure to check out their blogs!
Once again I would like to thank Danielle from http://whatdanielledidnext.wordpress.com for nominating me!
Another poem written late at night. It’s almost 4 am, whooppie! I hope everyone else is having a wonderful day. Thanks for stopping by!
Live, love laugh, sounds easy right?
Life is short and love can be hard to find.
That doesn’t mean you that should give up on yourself
Everyone goes through rough times, don’t be hard on yourself.
Don’t forget about laughter, we all need it in our lives.
Sometimes you have to laugh at yourself, trust me you will survive.
Live, love, laugh, three simple words to live by.
Grab life by the horns and aim sky high.
Publisher: Harper Collins
Release date: January 8, 2013
Rating: 5 stars – I LOVED THIS TO PIECES!
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It’s been months since Aria last saw Perry. Months since Perry was named Blood Lord of the Tides, and Aria was charged with an impossible mission. Now, finally, they are about to be reunited. But their reunion is far from perfect. The Tides don’t take kindly to Aria, a former Dweller. And with the worsening Aether storms threatening the tribe’s precarious existence, Aria begins to fear that leaving Perry behind might be the only way to save them both.
Threatened by false friends, hidden enemies, and powerful temptations, Aria and Perry wonder, Can their love survive through the ever night? — Goodreads
CAUTION. SPOILERS MAY LIE AHEAD. TIS NOT TOO LATE TO TURN BACK NOW.
In the heart-pounding second installment to Under The Never Sky, Veronica Rossi delivers a beautifully written sequel in Through The Ever Night. I’ve been waiting for over a year for TTEN as I got an ARC for UTNS in 2011. I’ll try to not squeal and fan girl for the duration of this review, but I’m already having trouble doing just that. Rossi completely and utterly blew my expectations out of the water with jarring and heartbreaking revelations and the possibility of deep betrayals. Plus, the romance in this book practically seeped through the pages.
Last we left our beloved characters in UTNS, Aria had discovered the shattering revelations that she was half outsider. She had left Perry behind, but after months of being apart they are finally reunited. And oh! It. Is. So. Bittersweet! Lots of things have changed for them both, like the fact that Perry is now Blood Lord of the Tides. His tribe does not welcome Aria (and this is the part where their reunion is bittersweet) and even attempt to kill her.
Aria leaves soon after but not because of the incident. She has a mission: to go in search of information for the still blue. They all need the still blue because the aether storms – which are kind of like intense lightening storms – threatened their lives every day as it has become almost impossible to be safe from them.
Throughout the novel, I just kept stopping and telling Perry that Aria loves him whenever he doubted her love for him. Her leaving without saying a word deeply betrayed him and my heart hurt. It’s one of the many things that Veronica Rossi does exceptionally. She makes you feel for the characters, making you forget about everything else but them. I realized as I was reading that Rossi used the sequel to expand character relationships. The bond between Perry and Aria magnified, but at the same time their love was riddled with doubt on Perry’s part because he just didn’t believe ASLDKFJDL;FKJDK. Then, there is the relationship between Roar and Aria, which at times may have been interpreted as romantic. I was really scared for that possibility. Don’t get me wrong, I love Roar but I am an Perria shipper at heart. Aria as a character has grown immensely both physically and emotionally since UTNS. The same goes for Perry – as he’s trying to handle the duties that come from being a Blood Lord – and some of the other minor characters of the story.
Everything that made Under The Never Sky amazing and fresh was written with sheer brilliance in Through The Ever Night. Rossi added much more depth surrounding Aria and Perry’s world that involved past and present vital information. We got to learn about where the word “aether” came from and the marking ritual that is performed for an outsider with a heightened gift. Those were, of course, the little things.Veronica Rossi does not spare her readers with shocking and agonizing twists.
My favorite thing about Through The Ever Night had to be the development of the relationships between the characters. Aria and Perry’s romance just captured my heart. It was different, seeing Perry rendered to Aria so utterly and completely. Then there is Aria, who was self-less enough to leave Perry to protect him, to protect everything he’s ever known. Roar and Aria’s friendship could only be described as open and comfortable. They have a bond, not quite the same as what Aria has with Perry, but it’s different in it’s entirety. Aria calls Roar her best friend and I couldn’t agree more.
The last ten chapters or so were filled with heart-racing action and shocking events. My heart literally was heavy until the very end. I consumed those pages and felt sad when I realized that there was no more. I’m definitely looking forward to reading what Veronica Rossi has in store for us in the anticipated conclusion, Into The Still Blue. If you have never read this series, I urge you to go forth and read it! You won’t be disappointed and the idea for her world is unique, creative, and captivating. You’ll become utterly obsessed as I have, which is a healthy sort of obsession. Right?
A huge thank you to Emma for submitting this review. Please check out her blog by clicking here